Staying Out of Facebook Jail

How to avoid Facebook Jail

Have you gotten thrown in Facebook jail?  It seems to come without warning and makes it so you can’t post in groups, send messages or friend requests, or sometimes even post at all!!  Let’s talk about how you can avoid going to jail.

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So first, let’s talk about what Facebook jail actually is.  If you have been there, you totally know what it is, but if you are new to Paparazzi, maybe you haven’t experienced the “joy” of Facebook jail yet.

Facebook jail basically locks you out of one or several of the features of Facebook.  The most common is posting in your groups, requesting friends, sending messages, or sending friend requests.  Usually you will get a notification that you are unable to do one or several of these things and/or an email.  The length of time you are in jail for varies.  Sometimes jail lasts for a few hours, sometimes a few months.  It totally depends on what you have done to get put in jail and if you have been there before.

Jail in real life or on Facebook is no good!  So let’s talk about some things you can do to avoid jail time….at least on Facebook.

1- Don’t be spammy!  So before we talk more about NOT being spammy, let’s talk about what spammy is.  Spam can be a lot of things.  It can be posting too many places with the exact same message.  It could be posting a slight variation of the same message posted in one place repeatedly.  It can be posting ALL the time about your business opportunity or sales.  It can be copying the same message other consultants are using and posting that.  It can be mass messaging people with the same message.   Bottom line, it is something that is overly done or overly un-personal.

Think about when you go to get the mail.  What do you usually get?  Bill, bill, bill.  Advertisement, credit card application, ad, and maybe (if you are lucky) another piece of junk mail like a magazine or flyer.  Is that fun to get?  Not really.  It’s more annoying and irritating.  It’s not something you want, ask for or even usually inquire back about.  It usually just goes into the trash.

Online, people are little more choosy about what they just “throw away”.  Sometimes, they will just scroll past a post or 2, but if you continue doing it, your friends are going to get irritated.  Soon enough, they will report it as spam.  Or if you are posting in groups repeatedly, a group member could also report you as spam.   Either way, you are wanting to ATTRACT people to your business and being spammy is going to do the exact opposite.

So how do you avoid being spammy?  Listen on!

2- ONE profile per person!  – There are a lot of different opinions on this particular piece of advice.  Facebook terms and conditions that you agree to when you join Facebook states that there is only ONE profile allowed per PERSON, not per email address.  If you are discovered running one, two, or 12 different profiles, Facebook will not put you in jail, they will DELETE all of them. If you are building a business on Facebook, you would loose all your parties, contacts, etc.

It’s also SUPER confusing to your friends, family and team.  When I search for someone that has several profiles…which one should I friend?  If I need to send a message to them….which profile should you use??

So, I stand by the rules of Facebook.  Have only 1 profile.  Better to play by the rules than be sorry.  I have never made a second profile and I haven’t been put into Facebook jail either…so by following these simple suggestions, your one and only profile will be all you need.

3- Don’t forget to be you! – Facebook really, really wants personal profiles to be just that – PERSONAL.  It’s okay to post about your business, but try to add a personal element.  Like have a picture of you bagging jewelry orders.  Take a selfie of you in your favorite new piece of jewelry.  Those kinds of posts show you AND your business, so they don’t raise as many red flags.

If you want to post something that is more business that personal, try to use a 9 to 1 ratio.  9 personal, 1 business.  You friends will still love you and so will Facebook.

4- posting in groups – Posting in groups (sales groups, yard sale groups, etc) is a fantastic way to grow your business.  First, NEVER, EVER EVER ever add someone to a group without permission.  Let me say this again – NEVER add someone to a group without asking and receiving permission first!

The only exception is if you make an event (like for a party) and  then adding the people that want to come to the party into the party group (or VIP group) for the actual live event.  When the RSVP that they are “going” it is a way of giving permission.  Just be sure to put in the event description that they actual event will be in the group and a link to the group so that way they know too.

Okay, so posting in groups – To truly avoid some serious jail time, don’t post graphics or pictures that a lot of other consultants are also posting.  A great example is when Paparazzi corporate sends out an email.  Sometimes they have some really cool graphics they have in those.  DON’T save that image and then post it right into your group.  Even if you only post it once, if 30,000 consultants post the same picture within 24 hours, Facebook will see it as spam.  Make your own collage or image and then post.

Groups are seen as more of a community by Facebook and they don’t really like people doing a lot of business in them.  I personally have a several groups for my team and a VIP sales group and LOVE them!  Be sure to post things that get the interaction up (games, contests, etc. ) and keep the conversation going.

5- posting on pages – Another way around this is to post the image directly to your fanpage and then SHARE it to your group, team page or group or personal profile.  Let’s look more at pages and why that is okay.  Facebook created pages FOR businesses!  It is expected that you will post things on your business pages that are less personal.  If you MUST post that one image that you got in an email and you have NO way to make your own or modify the image first, post it to your page and then share.  Then the “offending party” is the page and not you personally.  Even if the post is removed, you shouldn’t be put into jail.

Pages are also an excellent place to upload your albums of items for sale.  Even if you are going to post it into your sales group….since the post originated from your page, its not seen as you personally being spammy.  If you do load albums to your groups once a week or take them up and down, after a while, Facebook will start to see you as spammy and will flag your albums too.  So use your pages as a “gateway” to posting into your groups.  I know it’s slightly a hassle, but SO much better than being unable to post for a week or 2 and loosing out on your sales or even a few parties because you aren’t playing by Facebook’s rules.

6- Yard sale pages – These are a great place to find new customers and potential consultants.  There are a few things to remember as you are posting in yards ale groups.  First, follow the group rules.  Be sure to read the group rules before joining and then check them again from time to time.  If they sound super serious about no MLM’s or no business posting, keep looking for another group to join.

Second, when posting into groups don’t post the same things again and again.  Recently my 5 year old and 3 year old have been telling Knock Knock jokes.  They know 1.  They tell it again and again and again.  And just when you think they are done…they tell it again.  I am SO tied of hearing the same joke that I even tried to teach them another one just to get a little variety.  Did it work?  Nope.

Don’t be like a 5 year old with only 1 knock knock joke.  Keep your posts interesting and vary your content

Third, be respectful of the group and the members in the group.  Don’t post every single day or even every other day.  Remember the knock knock jokes?  Even if my kids knew 5 or 10 different jokes, if they were telling them every day at 10 am, I would get pretty tired of it really quick.  By spacing out your posts, you are reaching more people and showing that you aren’t going to be a pushy salesperson but that instead, you will respect them.  This goes a long ways with people who are seeing you for the first time.

And Fourth, Don’t sell individual items  in yard sale pages.  If someone comments and wants to buy a specific piece, take the conversation out of the group and into a private message.  While selling in yard sale groups isn’t against Facebook policy, it is against Paparazzi policy.

7 – Images and graphics – There are a LOT of great images and graphics available for you to use.  In fact, we have an entire section of our website dedicated to images that are free to use and have been made just for you!!

Be careful about using images that a lot of other consultants are using, especially if you are all posting it around the same time (like we talked about before in the sections about posting in groups and posting on pages)  Make your own image up if you want to share about a special Paparazzi is running!  It is important to be different and keep things fresh so that you don’t look spammy.

Another word of warning, some images that are made by other consultants aren’t made from places that allow the images to be used.  There have been consultants who were sued for using copyright protected images.  Be careful which images you use and where you get them from.  The good new is, all our images are made from Creative Commons Licensed images and modified by yours truly to be simply amazing!  (so in English, that I do my homework and try my best to make sure that my images are safe to use to market your business).

8- Messages – You may have seen Facebook already trying to protect you from people sending you messages.  It is called “filtered messages”.  A lot of times, when you aren’t connected to a person, Facebook with filter the messages and put it in a “special” place.  They figure that if you really needed to message that person, you would just be friends.  It becomes a big problem for you when you need to message party guests or customers who don’t mind buying from you, but don’t want to be friends either.

To avoid this, be super sure that you need to actually contact and that your message is one they won’t mind getting!  Don’t send mass messages or use group messaging to try to book parties, events of find recruits.  Group messages get old really quick and is a fast way to get flagged as spam.

9- Friend requests – just like with sending messages, sending bunch all at once will get you thrown into jail.  Request people you actually know in real life first and then as you want to connect with other consultants or team members, either let them send the request or request only a few people at a time.

Keep in mind that Facebook for your business is more like a marathon and less like a sprint.  Build your business a little bit every day.  Reach out a little bit every day!  The habit of being consistent and working your business slowly but regularly will be what sets you apart from the crowd!


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Lisa Abercrombie – Paparazzi Jewelry Elite Leader Interview

Lisa is a Rock Star online and an amazing team leader.  She has a lot of insight and tips to share with us in today’s episode…

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Lisa Abercrombie - Paparazzi jewelry Elite Leader - pic 2 Lisa Abercrombie - Paparazzi jewelry Elite LeaderToday I’m pleased to welcome to the call Lisa Abercrombie.  She is amazing and you guys are gonna learn so much from her!

Let me tell you a little about Lisa before we jump into her training for us.  Lisa is the other of 4 boys and they are age ranges from 6-15.  She has been in Paparazzi for 5 years.  She started the very last day of September in 2011.

Lisa is married and they live over in Virginia.  Now her hubby is able to work from home so that frees up their schedule.  He was able to do that in March of last year.

Lisa has a background of working in a hospital lab.  She did that for a couple of years.

When her oldest started kindergarten, she started to stay home with her kids and started her own video editing business.  She did that for 7 years.  That’s where she gets her awesome graphic design skills and graphic design skills that you’ll see on her website.

Lisa is an Executive Producer with Paparazzi.  She has reached Crown Club 25 and she is Life of the Party with Bronze access.

Lisa is also the brains behind the website  And she says to be sure to keep an eye out on that because she has big plans and there’s some amazing things coming to that website very soon.

Lisa, did I miss anything?

Lisa: I think that’s most of it.

Awnya: Awesome.  Awesome.  Well, let’s jump into the very first question.

What got you started with Paparazzi?

Lisa.  This is kind of interesting I think.  My video business was going and then we moved over here to Virginia. I had a baby and I took a year off my video business because I didn’t know anybody.

Then I was ready to start like posting adds on Craigslist to start making video montages again.  My sister called me literally the night before, because I had plans, she called me the night before and she said, “I have to tell you about this thing.  I just went to this jewelry party and it’s called Paparazzi and everything was $5.”

She lives in Utah where it kinda mostly started.  So she told me all about it and for some reason I do everything she tells me, because she’s my older sister, so she’s like, “You should sign up.” so I went online to do a little research.

There wasn’t much to see but I found out kinda what it was and I was really excited and so the next day I called my future sponsor girl, you know, she went and got her name for me.  She was actually doing an event.  She couldn’t talk to me and I told her I wanted to talk to her right now because I wanted to sing up so badly and so she took off from her event and had somebody help her out.

That’s how I signed up and I am really an entrepreneur at heart and so any kind of business challenge is super-duper interesting.  And so that’s why I wanted to do it.  I didn’t even know it was all $5 really.  I didn’t know all the earrings came for free with a necklaces until I opened my packages.  I was a pretty big surprise and I loved it.

Awnya: Your sister told you to join and you joined.  I love that.  I don’t know anybody else who has that same story.  That’s great.

What is your Paparazzi why?

Lisa:  First I did it to be challenged.  Cuz, I don’t know. It’s kinda like, my sponsor did it and she was this girl who was like 10 years younger than me.  And I was like, “Well, I can do that.  You know, I have all this life experience and I’ve been through college already and I know more people probably.”  So it was kind of a challenge to see if I could be as successful as her.  That’s why I first started.

And then I learned more about the creativity part because Paparazzi doesn’t have very many rules, which I love.  And because of that, I’ve been able to come up with ideas and solve problems because they are not telling me every single little thing to do.

For me, that’s really liberating and for me, it gives me a purpose beyond just cleaning my house and watching my kids.  You know what I mean?

Awnya: Oh, totally.  And as a mom, and a stay at home mom, you need that creative outlet and adult conversations.

Now, have you noticed that your why has changed from when you first started to now, where you’re an Elite leader.

Lisa:  A little bit, yeah.  At first, it was about me, you know.  “I wanna hit these goals.  I wanna see if I can do it.”  It was like that. But now…my personal goal, when I heard about Leadership Summit, was to get to Leadership Summit.

And so last year I was able to go.  I hit Executive producer a year and a half ago and I got to go to Leadership.  It was amazing and I loved it.  So it’s not like I dreamed to be a Maven A-lister although that would be great.

But my goal now is to like help other people get there because, for me, that was like the crowning achievement was to get spoiled at Leadership.  So I really, really want other people to go.

And so, I have my first team member, Dawn Ortiz and she gets to go to Leadership this year. So she’s the first one in my downline who gets to go and I’m so excited to see her hit that huge, huge goal cuz I know that was a big one for her.

That’s kinda what it is at this point.  I’m trying to figure out how to teach other people how to progress and not just sell jewelry every day.  So yeah, it’s changed a little, but I still do it in the same way.  I like to be creative and stuff.

Awnya: Oh! We love Dawn!  She was on the Podcast a couple of episodes ago.  So if you want to go back and listen, is where her interview will be at.

I love that you want to help more people get to the Elite Leadership Summit because they really do spoil you guys and that is such a really cool goal.  Not just to make a ton of money but to help other people.

So we are going to take a little bit of a shift here to your worst Paparazzi moment.

So draw us a picture take us to that moment in time that was your Worst Moment with Paparazzi.

Lisa:  This is a fun story to tell.  This was right when I started because I didn’t know what I was doing.  You know what, it doesn’t even matter if I knew what I was doing.  It’s just that I saw a lot of potential in this business.

So what it was is when I sighed up, I live in Virginia and I’m about 1 hour and a half from Washington DC.  And so between me and Washington DC there are like the richest houses in the whole country because you have all these executive homes.

So when I signed up, I thought, “Okay!” and I was the ninth person in the state to sign up.  So I was like, “I’m gonna kill it!  I’m gonna get all of northern Virginia under me.”  That was my plan.

So then I went to my friend who was a marketer.  And she said a job fair would be the very best place to find people.  And so I’m like, “Rock on, this is what I’m gonna do”.  I went and found a job fair right in the middle of Washington DC and signed up to sell jewelry at it and to present my business.

It was very expensive.  I think it was $800.  So I went for it.  I signed up for that thing and I was ready to go to DC.  So the day before I was supposed to go I realized that it was DC and I’m not going there alone and I’m not driving in the traffic alone cuz its scary.

So I paid a teenager friend $100 so that she could help me.  That wasn’t a huge mistake. That was fun getting to know her and having her support.  So she came with me.  So then it was $900 is what my point is.  So then we drive to DC.

And the place was like right downtown and we drove around the block probably 7 or 8 times because I couldn’t get into the other lane to get into the hotel and drop off all my stuff.  Anyway we finally did.  It was very scary.  I got in there.

Oh!   Oh I didn’t tell you the other part.  Also the day before they called me and they said, “We just realized you were going to sell your jewelry there and you’re not allowed to sell products at our job fair.  Do you still want to go?”

  So after thinking for just a couple of minutes I’m like, “Yeah.  Yes I do.” because I had in mind that this job fair was going to kill it.  So I went to an event where you can’t even sell stuff and I paid $900 which was insane.

So I didn’t regret it yet.  I went in there and presented and had those drawing slips.  People filled them out and by the end of the day I have 35 people who wanted to sign up for Paparazzi.  Cool right?!

So these 35 people, I get home and I start calling them all.  Every single one of them I leave messages.  Pretty much nobody’s home.  I leave messages, I call the next day.  I’m super excited.  And then I started to actually talk to them.  And I didn’t know this, but I’m telling you guys not to make the same mistake.

Every single one of those people needed a job like today. They needed a McDonald’s job.  They needed cash.  They didn’t need a business opportunity.  It was absolutely the wrong audience.

I felt defeated and I don’t know.  “$900 really?!”  That was more than my kit.  I got the $750 kit at that time.  It kind of kicked my butt and I was very bugged.   But I had signed up for 9 other events.  I signed up for 10 events the day after I signed up for Paparazzi so I was obligated and committed to go to those other 9 events.

So I just kinda brushed it off my shoulders and did everything else anyway and pretended that never happened and moved forward.

What is the lesson you want us to learn from that?

So I kinda learned a little bit of a lesson from that.

And that is, it can get kinda crappy.  You can lose a lot of money but I feel like I planted a seed there because nobody in Virginia had heard of Paparazzi.  Nobody.  And so at least people started knowing what it was.

And because I was active and because I was doing all my stuff, I got quite a few signups from the Zip code finder where people could call Paparazzi and find out who was active in our area and I was the only one and so I had maybe 10 different people in the next couple of months who signed up from adjacent areas to where I live.

So it did pay off.  I didn’t know that it would.  I just kinda thought that one event can’t control the future of my business.  That would be silly.  That’s my lesson that I learned.

Awnya:  I’m gonna highlight a couple other things that you said in there that I loved.  So you said to keep pushing through, even when you have those bad events, spend $900 to get nothing.  You just keep pushing through.

And then the second thing that you said was to be active so that people can find you in the consultant search and that’s a great way to find new people in your area and to build your team, right?!

Lisa:  Yeah, I’ve never been inactive.  I can’t even imagine that.  I don’t think I would be serious about my business if I let that slide.

Awnya: And it’s really not that hard to get 25 pieces a month.  Just join the Fashion Fix and you’ve got that taken care of, right?!

Lisa:  Yeah.  That wasn’t always available so I have had some days before where, you know, the time was getting close but I… actually, just a couple of times, so thank goodness for the fashion fix now.

Awnya: Let’s keep moving right along.

What is a habit you feel contributes to your success?

Lisa:  A habit I have would be, I kinda mentioned it when I talked a second ago.  I obligate myself to something so that I cannot let anybody down.

So I’ll sign up for events 6 months away and then I know I’ll be active in Paparazzi clear through that.  It just keeps the ball rolling.  So I try to sign up for events far away.

Another thing that I do that’s an obligation is that I’ll promise my team something.  Like right now, we are doing a contest where we are getting no’s.  Go for No like they taught at Empower Me Pink.

 And so there’s a contest where our team has to get 30 no’s a week for 2 weeks.  And I put myself in a group with my birthday because we grouped by birthdays. And so I have to do it too.  And so I’m trying to figure out ways that I can do the same thing that they are doing.  I’m trying to get my 30 no’s.

And by obligating myself to that, and I’ve promised prizes and I’ve promised an end date, it just kinda keeps me from being lazy about it and from slacking a little bit.  And I don’t always have a contest going but I try to keep them kind of consistent every month or two so that everybody stays kind of on their toes.

Awnya:  Planning for the future.  Planning for events in the future, planning for your team in the future.  You’re not going day to day or week to week or month to month. You’re looking forwards into the future for your business and for your team, right?

Lisa:  Yeah, it’s smart to do the day to day stuff so you don’t get overwhelmed, but obligating is something.  It works.  It totally works.  I don’t know why I do that or how I figured it out, but it’s kind of my system now and so I’m just gonna do that forever cuz it works for me.

What advice would you give to a brand new Paparazzi consultant just barely getting started in their business?

Lisa:  I would say consistency.  I am not consistent.  I’m a really big procrastinator and sometimes when I finish a project, I’m like, “why wasn’t I doing this every day?” you know?!

In fact, there’s this trick I’ve learned and I haven’t even watched anything about it, I just found out it exists.  It’s called the 90 second rule.  And what it is, it’s called the 90 second rule.  And what it is, is if you have something to do, let’s say you need to clean up the kitchen table after breakfast from your kids.  If you take 90 seconds and put all their dishes in the dishwasher and wash them off, its gonna take you 90 seconds to do it.

If you wait until later, then you have to like soak the dishes, scrub all the stuff off and its gonna take you way, way longer than the 90 seconds it would have taken before.  With consistency, you can totally apply that.

Let’s say for example, you have new jewelry that just came in.  It will just take you a few minutes to go to your website, pull up the pictures and post them on Facebook.  If you wait till later, you may have sold 1/2 of your stuff and then you have to figure out what’s missing and you have to make sure you have everything labeled correctly.

And so consistency and doing small tasks daily.  Seriously, I bet you I would be way higher now if I had been more consistent. I’ve been working on it and so it’s something that I’ve improved, but I would suggest to everybody that they be consistent.

And the other thing about consistency is that your customers are going to see you as something reliable.  Like I know I can go to Walmart today, they’re going to have the stuff I want because they consistently carry their products and stuff.

 And so I’ve been working on consistency with my LIVE sales.  And so my customers, like I do it every single Thursday nights.  And so now my customers know where to find me and where to look for me and it’s cool.

So sometimes if I’m like 2 or 3 minutes late, I have people messaging me, “Where are you?  Why haven’t you started?”  which is great.  It makes you feel pretty good and then you’re able to sell more, of course.  That’s it.  I would say consistency could carry your whole entire business if you do it.

Awnya:  The 90 second rule.  I haven’t heard of that before but I love that! and I’m gonna have to start doing it.  Cuz as we’re speaking, my kids oatmeal bowls from this morning are sitting, drying in my sink and you’re right!  It’s gonna take me so much longer to do those dishes because I didn’t do it the first time.

What is 1 thing you would suggest to a consultant who is feeling stuck in their Paparazzi business.  What would you tell them to do to get things energized again.

Lisa:  You know what?!  This is what I do for my backup.  I call it my backup plan.  Almost anybody on the planet will do fundraiser stuff in one fashion or another.  What I’ve noticed about people, they do not do for themselves, but they’ll do for other people.

In fact, when I have girls trying to hit rank, I tell them to ask their friends if they want to help them hit an rank by buying their jewelry or by ordering or whatever.  Because people will do for other people before themselves.  So with a fundraiser, there’s 2 different ideas.

One is, like let’s say you can’t find any events or let’s say an event got canceled and you need something last minute.  You can often find a local fundraiser that’s already happening and be a part of it.  You can go in and have a table because if you are willing to donate part of your profit, everybody wins.  It’s not going to hurt them or you.  So you can usually get into an event last minute.

Whether it’s a booth or a quarter auction, they have those a lot around here, or something where you donate and raffle off prizes.  Because then you can go there and meet people and network.  So fundraisers and a super, super good backup plan.

The other thing you can do with a fundraiser is, do a live party as a fundraiser.  And this is really interesting.  So I only started doing live parties in…maybe the end of October.

And I decided for New Year’s Eve, I wanted my boys to do something.  For Christmas, we didn’t do an angels tree or a Sub for Santa or anything like that.  And I didn’t want to miss out on the opportunity and so we decided to do a fundraiser with the boys and have them sell the jewelry in front of the camera.

We did that.  We set that up for New Years Eve cuz I know a lot of moms would be sitting home anyways. We did okay.  They lasted about 15 minutes and then my husband took over and did it for about 30 minutes and then the phone died.

And so I picked up where they left of the next day and did a live party for like a long time.  Three or 4 hours.  And what I ended up doing is, we picked the Make a Wish foundation and I labeled my live video with that.  “Make a wish fundraiser.”  I donated all the profits because that’s kinda what I wanted my kids to do anyways.  So I wrote this.  “Make a Wish foundation fundraiser.  All profits donated.”  That was my biggest sale I’ve ever had.

It was so cool because I had a lot of people curious because it was not just for me to make money.  And I know that why we’re here, to make money, but you’re gonna learn really fast, it’s not just about that.  And so I was able to sell a whole bunch of jewelry, get rid of a bunch of my stock that I’m tired of and it was just a really good booth.

And from that point it made me pretty motivated to start doing them every Thursday night.  And I have made some customers from that sale that I wouldn’t have made before because they bought to help the Make a Wish fundraiser, not really because they loved jewelry.  That would be my advice.  Just look in the fundraiser arena until you get things going again.

Awnya:  Well, and even thought you didn’t MAKE a ton of money with that, like you said, you cleared out some of your old inventory so then you’re able to buy new things.  So then it’s a win, win for everybody involved.

What is a quote that inspires you?

Lisa:  So I’ve thought about this and I like quotes but I couldn’t think of one from somebody else.  And so I made up one when I first started and I think this is 100% true.  Now it’s not inspiring as far as like motivational, but it is as far as having this business.

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It is really, truly like we’ve won the lottery.  And so if you work super hard, your payout is going to be bigger.  And it’s kinda ringing true for me now because I have a consistent paycheck from my team.  Looking back, I couldn’t have imagined having a big paycheck but it’s the coolest thing ever!

Like, we just redid our kitchen.  We’ve been putting that off forever because nobody ever has extra money.  And so we were able to do that and it’s because I kinda look at this business that way, you know.  If I don’t get a big paycheck it’s kinda my fault because I’m not working hard enough.

Awnya:  Oh, that totally makes sense.  It might not be a quote from Vincent Van Gough or something, but it is totally perfect.

Last question.

Here on the PapaRockStars podcast, we like to do a weekly call challenge.  So

What is 1 thing you would challenge the listeners to do in the next 7 days to take action in their Paparazzi business?

Lisa:  Going back to what we were talking about, there’s 2 parts to this…

I would say why don’t you jump on the challenge to my 30 no’s in a week.  And that way that works in you need to ask people about their business.  Like you need to straight up got to their face and say,  “You know what?  You know I sell jewelry.  I’ve never asked you.  Is this something you want to be a part of?” or you could say, “Are you interested in buying some of my stuff?”  You know, whatever you want to ask them.

And what you’re doing is, you are going for 30 no’s in 1 week so you can split it up however you want.  In the no’s you’re going to get yesses, obviously. So you’re going to find party bookings, you’re going to find interested recruits and you’re gonna make more jewelry sales.  So I would challenge you to do the 30 no’s in 1 week.

The other half of that is the consistency thing.  So make a goal to make this 30 no’s challenge consistent.  Like maybe you need to make sure you’re running 1 errand everyday so you can talk to 2 or 3 people.  And that will get some of your no’s done.  Or make sure that you block out a time each day like from 10-11 and make a ton of phone calls.

Do something consistent.  Don’t put it off till the end of the week and maybe you’ll also, in doing that, you’ll find something that works well so that you can just start doing that for the rest of your life and start doing that for your business.

Awnya:  So 30 no’s.  And a “maybe” or a “not right now” does not count as a “no”, right Lisa?

Lisa:  Right!  Yeah.  It has to be a straight up “no”.  “No no no”.

Awnya: So I’ve done these challenges before and it gets to the point where when someone says “yes”, you kinda get disappointed.  It flips is on its head a little bit.  So don’t get discouraged.  You’ll get your 30 no’s, you just have to push thought a little bit.

Lisa: Yeah, yeah exactly.  My plan, I’ll tell you really quick.   I’m going to call the retirement centers and the hospitals where I live.   I’ve been wanting to do that since I started.  And then the other one is, I’m finally going to try to do a bingo party in person.  And so I’m just going to message my customers directly and just say “I’m doing a bingo party will you come?”  And then there we go.  So hopefully I’ll get my 30 no’s pretty fast, but it’s a good plan because these are things that I’ve been putting off for forever.

Awnya: And now your forced to do it cuz you’re like, “Man I need my 30 no’s” and your team is counting on you and so now you just gotta do it, right?!

List: Unfortunately yes, but I will be so glad.

Awnya: Lisa, I sure appreciate you coming on the call today.  You have shared some gems and our listeners are going to LOVE it!

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Finding Balance

Finding the perfect balance between home, business, and personal life is a constant process.  Today we talk about a few things to help you keep things balanced.

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This is a topic that has been near and dear to my heart lately.   If you are a long time listener, you will know that I have 7 kids.  They are 14 years old to 14 months old.  They are active in sports, clubs and with friends.  I am active in our church group as well.  And then on top of that, supporting my growing team and leaders.

I love everything that I do and have evaluated all my activities regularly to make sure that I’m not spending unnecessary time on activities that don’t bring me joy.

Now, I’m constantly trying to find a good balance between home, family, cleaning, business, and personal time and while I’m definitely not an expert on time management, I have found a few tricks along the way to help me get more things done.

#1 – Touch things once.  Let me explain.  If you clean the dishes from the table, don’t just put them in the sink and then come back later to scrub and put them into the dishwasher.  Rinsing them the first time you touch them means that you won’t have to spend time scrubbing them later on.  It means that you will be able to just run water over them and set time in the dishwasher.

I can’t say that I’m the BEST at this particular tip, but when I DO do it, life is MUCH simpler.

Another great example is making my bed.  If I were to get up and immediately make my bed, not only is my room much tidier, but then I don’t have to come back to it later on in the day and make it.

2- Multi-task.  This is probably my BIGGEST secret.  There are things that I have to do everyday and can’t really get around.  One of those things is picking up my kids from school.  But it’s not as simple as just picking them up.  The pick-up lane at the school starts to fill up about 10 minutes before classes let out and if you aren’t parked and waiting before then, it takes you 3 times as long to get you kids loaded up and then maneuver out of the pick up area and away from all the kids, cars and crazed parents.

While I was sitting, waiting for pickup, I used to play on my phone.  Check in on Facebook, call my mom, etc.  Now, I bring something to do while I sit.  Sometimes I brainstorm for ideas for upcoming newsletters, trainings and podcasts.  Other times, I will bring Thank You notes that I need to write or a list of people I need to call.  That way I have something productive to do while I sit.

Soccer games are another prime example of this down time.  We have to be 45 minutes early to the game so they can warm up and then my son usually sits out at least 1 (sometimes 2) quarters.  It’s sometimes fun to just sit and watch the other team, but I feel much more accomplished if I have something I can accomplish while I sit.

3- Find time for you – This is a MUST!!  After 14 years of being a mom where I am constantly giving of my time, energy and sanity, I have finally learned the importance of ME time.  I try to fill these times with some sort of activity that is either extremely relaxing (like a massage or a pedicure) or something that will feed my soul.  Exercising on my elliptical while listening to an audio book is one of my favorites.  Reading a self-improvement type book or listening to a podcast are a few other things I enjoy doing.  Sometimes I can do these while I do something else (driving to visit family is a prime time for me to listen into something for me since the kids are on electronics or watching a DVD) but other times, it is just 5 minutes that you give yourself.

When you give and give and give to others, its easy to feel like you run out of things to give.  You get worn down, drained and tired.  (and this is me speaking from personal experience).  So, go on a date with yourself.  Take 5 minutes to paint your nails or to read a paragraph out of a book.  It might seem like little things but these will TOTALLY help in the long run.

4- be PRESENT with people.  One of my BIGGEST pet-peeves is watching people checking out at the grocery store and hardly even acknowledge the person who is checking them out.  They are talking on their phones or texting.  In my option it is SO rude.  People are more important than electronics and I think that as a society we sometimes forget that!  When you are spending time with your family in the evening or after school while the kids are eating snack, put away your phone or computer and talk with them.  Listen to their day.  It only takes 5 minutes or so, but they will feel heard and loved.  Your relationships will be better because of it.

In your other relationships, find ways to honor the people you are with as well.  Constantly checking text messages when someone is trying to talk to you is rude and makes them feel less important and valued.  Put your phone down, enjoy your conversations and strengthen your relationships.  In the end, this will make a HUGE difference in finding balance in your life.

5 – Delegate.  This is something I still struggle with sometimes.  It is SO much faster for me to put away the dishes or to make dinner than to try to instruct someone else on how to do it.  It is so much easier to just handle all the snacks for the Valentines party at the school instead of delegating it because you don’t have to worry that it won’t get done.

The thing to remember is that it might be faster the FIRST time for you to do it, but think about the second time or the third time, or the 50th time.  If you delegate, you might have to spend a little more time upfront training someone to do a specific task, but in the long run, you will save a TON of time!

A good example of this is when my kids load the dishwasher.  They put things in all kinds of weird places and in ways that it will never get clean.  The FIRST thing I do is to THANK them for trying.  Tell them they did a good job and then offer a suggestion or 2 on how they could do it next time to help the dishwasher clean better.  Then the next time repeat the process.  After 4 or 5 times they will be loading it like a pro!  On the other hand, if you yell and tell them what a horrible job they did, they won’t want to try again, so be positive and encouraging and limit your “tips” to 2.

A few of the tasks I’ve been delegating, matching socks, sweeping the kitchen floor, vacuuming, unloading and loading the dishwasher, making dinner (just a few times a week), and even getting the mail.  They might seem like a little task, but they add up.

As a bonus, delegating tasks will help your kids or husband be more aware of everything you do around the house and they may even be a little more considerate when making messes.

6- Business time.  I know we’ve talked a lot about being respectful of others and their time, but I just had to mention one more thing.  Schedule time for your business.  For me, we know that Wednesdays are online party nights and Thursdays are team meeting nights.  On those nights, its expected that I will do business.  Also, during nap time is when I get a lot of my business things done that I need to do.  Around those times, I’m able to schedule things in and work with my team as they need me.

But, there has to be a time where you also put business away and spend time with your friends.  With your family.  With your kids.  Don’t make them feel that Paparazzi is more important than they are!  Paparazzi is all about family and making your business work around your life, not the other way around.  If someone messages you about joining your team at 3 am…don’t drag yourself out of bed to respond!  They will be excited to hear from you when you wake up!

Don’t skip out of your little girl’s dance recital to answer a question about a necklace or pair of earrings.  It will WAIT but your little girl dancing will not.  There is time every day where I put my phone down and have family time.   And when that time is over (whether it’s 30 minutes or 2 hours…) then I can respond to my texts and messages.  Sometimes “problems” solve themselves!

You might be thinking this tip sounds a little crazy, but if you set up your business so that they second someone messages you or texts you, you respond, that might be great for the first 10 or 15 team members, but as your team continues to grow, as your customer base gets bigger, that will just multiply.  I’m sure there are leaders who are bombarded with messages constantly!  Set those boundaries (spoken or unspoken) early so you can avoid problems later on.

Finding balance doesn’t happen overnight and it’s not something that once you find it, you will always stay in balance.  The trick is to constantly be tweaking and changing what you are doing until you find the best fit for you.  Until you find the ways that you can simplify your life and magnify your efforts for maximum success.

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Focus on one area that you feel out of balance.  Is it your finances?  Spirituality?  Relationships?  Maybe its your housework or your team training.  Find one of the areas you would like to work on this week and commit to 2 ways help bring that area back into balance in your life.

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Angela Small – Paparazzi Jewelry Elite Leader Interview

Today’s special Elite Leader Interview is with Angela Small.  Angela is one of the top Paparazzi Jewelry consultants.  She is an awesome team leader and mother and she has some great information to share with us today on the Papa Rock Stars Podcast.

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Today I am excited to welcome to the show Angela Small.   Angela is a fashionista with Paparazzi Accessories.  That is an Elite Rank.  She has achieved Crown Club 10 and Life of the Party Bronze.  Angela is the leader of Angela’s Angels with nearly 900 consultants under her.

She does Paparazzi full time.  It’s her only Full time job and her love.  Angela lives in Maine with her husband of 10 years and her 7 year old little boy.  Now, if you were in the Dominican Republic with us or if you’ve seen pictures, you will see her whole family there with her.

I actually got to take a snorkeling excursion with her and her little boy and it was so fun to watch him splashing around in the water.  She says he is now addicted to snorkeling thanks to Trent Kirby.

Her ultimate goal with Paparazzi is to retire her husband so that they can be free to live the life that they want to live and so he doesn’t have to punch the clock.

Angela, Did I leave anything out?

Angela: You didn’t!  Thank you so much for having me!  I have my own channel?  My own like extension?  Slash Angela?  I feel so special.

Awnya:  Of course, of course!  We have to highlight you!!

Angela:  Wow!

Awnya:  Well, let’s jump right in!

What got you started with Paparazzi?

Angela:  Well, for about 10 years or so I was working at a job where I was very unhappy.  I was going pretty much nowhere in the company.  I worked for the government.  Each day I got out at 4:30 and my son’s daycare closed at 5:30 leaving me very little time to get there.

And one day, stuck in traffic and construction, I had to go the bathroom.  My gas tank was on empty and it was very apparent that I was going to be getting him late.

I showed up at his school and there he was outside, alone with his teacher.  Waiting for me.  The last kid there.  And seeing him there, standing there waiting for me, with me all flustered, I had said, “This is enough.  I’m tired of this.  I’m tired of living my life around a job I hate.”

I was just tired of missing out on so much of his life just to be a slave to the corporate world.  I was gone for 11 or 12 hours every single day for what??  You know?!   I knew something needed to happen.

We couldn’t afford to miss out on my paycheck but I really couldn’t continue to live like that.  That moment, I said, I’m done.  Money has a way of coming around again but time doesn’t.

A few months later without any kind of safety net, without any backup plan, without any support from anybody- including my husband- I quit my job.  So long story short, money was running out, time was running out.  I needed to find a job fast and that’s kinda when I found Paparazzi.

Even though I hate Direct Sales, I can’t stand them.  I don’t like buying things I don’t need and can’t afford.  I saw my former co-worker, Christy, having a Facebook sale, a Facebook party for Paparazzi and somehow this beautiful pink necklace “All the Trimmings” popped up in my newsfeed.  I bought the necklace that day and I signed up to sell that night.

 I didn’t have the money, I used Paypal line of credit to finance the $299 kit.  I paid off that kit with my profits within a week.  I was promoted to Director in a couple of months.  I promoted to Producer in less than a year.  I had more than 200 team mates in my first year.  And now 2 1/2 years later, I have a team of, I think, around 900.  And it has completely changed out life.

We’ve traveled the world.  I make triple what I used to make working for the government and I am literally happier than I have ever been.  I don’t miss out on any part of my sons youth.  We live and enjoy our life how, when and where we please and it’s all because of $5 jewelry.  It’s pretty amazing!

That’s my story!

Awnya:  That’s very similar to my story!   I was working graveyards at McDonalds and I missed my son rolling over for the first time.  It was pre-Paparazzi.

You hit that point where you are like, “Something has got to give.  Because I’m tired of missing out on my children’s lives.  I’m tired of missing out on things that I can’t get back.”

You know, you can always see a movie later or go out with your girlfriends later, but missing those important moments in your child’s life, you can’t ever get those back, right?!

Angela: No. No, and my other feeling was this- when I wasn’t at work, I felt like I was always stressed because when I was home, I was trying to get done everything I couldn’t do during the week.  I just kinda felt like, after all the money you pay in daycare and gas and tolls and the time from sunup, the time you leave your house till the time you get home, you’re just working, working, working.

And the time you are home, its being spent catching up on the un-fun things like housework and cooking and all of that.  I just didn’t feel like I was enjoying my life.  I would rather be broke than not enjoying my life.

And thankfully now, I’m never broke and I love my life more than ever.

Awnya:   So powerful.  Okay, so let’s jump into the next question.

What is your Paparazzi why?  Why do you do Paparazzi?

Angela: It gives me a purpose, you know.  I feel like I am so much more than just a wife or just a mother.  I am like, now, I am a leader. I am a friend.  And I have found true joy.  All while contributing financially to our family.  I would say that I do it all for my family, but I don’t really.  I do it all for them and for my own happiness.  I feel like it’s really rounded out my life.

Awnya:  Now, has your why changed a little bit from when you first started Paparazzi till now?

Angela: Yea, my original why was that I  simply just needed more money.  I needed money for my family and it’s turned into far more than that.  As you know, being in the family that we are in, cuz you and I are sisters too.  We’re Papa-sisters!

I don’t have a sister, but you know.  But now, I have them all over the country and I’m traveling all over the world to see them and I have a sense of pride that I’ve never experienced before.

I mean, it’s true!  It’s so much more than the money.  It’s so much more than jewelry.

Awnya:  There’s so much that Paparazzi has to give us besides a little bit of money on the side.  Like the sisterhood that you were talking about.  The feeling of accomplishment.  I love the recognition, I mean, I wish somebody was standing there after I finished loading the dishwasher and was like, “Good job!  Way to go!  Here’s a certificate!”

Being a mom, being a housewife, it’s kind of a thankless job.  So that’s one of the many other things that I love. You get that recognition. You get that pat on the back from your leaders.

Angela:  My husband, you know, he is an amazing, hard worker.  He has been working at his job for 25 plus years in management.  And he literally works 5-6 days a week, all day long.  Puts in overtime.  Weekends, evenings, holidays, the whole 9.  And he’s never gotten a thank you gift in the mail.  He’s never gotten a Christmas bonus.

He works way harder than I ever do and I feel like I am constantly showered in praise and thanks and love.  And it’s really awesome.  And I don’t think anybody outside of our little Paparazzi world can truly understand how wonderful it is.

Awnya:  I completely agree.  We’re gonna take a little bit of a shift, a little bit of a change here because we want to talk about your worst Paparazzi moment. Now, we’re not bashing on Paparazzi because if you guys can’t tell, we have passion for Paparazzi. We love it with all our hearts.

But everybody has that moment where you feel like giving up.  Where you feel like the whole world is against you.  Where you are just the lowest of the low and this question is designed to let everybody else in Paparazzi know that even those Elite leaders, the ones that are the highest ranking in Paparazzi, have had those bad moments too.  So Angela,

Take us to that moment in time that was your worst Paparazzi moment.

Angela:  Even the best jobs have the worst days, you know.  I mean, yeah.  I get it.  Actually, my worst Paparazzi moment was fairly recently actually.  I always encourage my team to go outside their comfort zone and I did and I went live on my personal page.  And I had friends and I had teammates watching and I didn’t sell a darn thing.  I was discouraged but more than anything, I was so embarrassed.

What did you learn from that?

Awnya:  What was the take-away?

Angela:  The takeaway is, if you aren’t successful in something, whether it be in business or in life, look at the situation and figure out what it is you are doing wrong and watch people who do it better than you.  I tried to evaluate in that situation, why I was not successful.  And what I realized was that I did not have a lot of enthusiasm for each pieces.  In addition, I did not build up the party.  I did not plan ahead, I did not advertise it.  It was pretty much just an on a whim thing.

I did not build up momentum in the party either.  I did not display my products well and I did not showcase each piece as they deserved.  And the worst thing that I did not do was that I did not interact with people in the comments.  There were people popping in and saying, “Hi!” but I was too busy talking to myself that I didn’t talk to them.

Thankfully, when I went to Empower Me Pink, I learned so much! I took notes, not only for my team, but for myself, which I will be applying to my next live event, which I am slowly working up the courage to do again.

Awnya:  I love that you say that.  You are working up the courage to try again.  Cuz you’re not just going to quit.  You’re not just going to say, “This live video is for other people.  It’s not for me.  You’re ready to go at it again.

Angela:  Absolutely!  I learn from my mistakes!  And I’ve also been studying people who have wild success.  I have people on my team who sell 95% of what they show.  I give great advice and I’m now going to be taking my own advice and I’m a very strong believer in that.

Awnya: So for the Live videos –

  • Plan ahead
  • talk it up
  • get people excited just like you would with a home party
  • invite people ahead of time
  • Enthusiasm
  • showcase each piece and make it look good


Angela:  Absolutely.  Describe each pieces’ qualities, you know.  I did a live video, I’m really big into live with my own team in my own private group, and I was showing off this pieces.  Long story short, I have this belt that I bought in the Dominican and I wear it as a necklace and as a hairpiece.  And one of my girls kinda said that she didn’t like it and she was kinda picking on me, which was fine.  And I said, “Okay, well,” and I held up the necklace and I said, “Here’s the necklace and it’s $5.  Made of shells…multiple colors.  $5.” and then go onto the next.  “Does that sound good?  Or how does this sound?”

“Look at this piece.  It is a necklace, it is a belt, and it is a hair-tie.”  And then tie it in your hair. “It’s made of shells.  Check out the detail on these shells.  Handmade in the Dominican Republic.  It’s got colors.  It’s got purple.  It’s got blue, beige and it think there’s some green in here.  I have only one of these folks, if you want it say SOLD”.

Even if I thought it was hideous, which it very well could have, I never lied about the product.  I never said it was absolutely amazing.  You don’t have to lie.  But showcase a pieces’ best quality.

Awnya:  Something that I’ve been doing to prepare for my live videos next, and you’re going to  think that this is so dumb.  I’ve been watching QVC.  Instead of Netflix binge-watching when I’m doing laundry or whatever, I put on QVC, not to buy things, but to listen to their descriptions.

QVC, they have been selling for years!  People buy like crazy on there, and there’s a reason.  There’s a formula that they use on there.  So if you want to research for your live videos, the listeners, go ahead, tune into QVC, tune into the jewelry gem network or whatever it is.  See how they describe things.  See how they talk about things. See how they pull you in.

Like, they were describing this jacket and it was like this horse-hair… honestly it was kinda ugly in my opinion.   But in the middle of it, they have this girl modeling and they said to her, “How’s your baby doing?” and then they tell everyone, “She just had a baby 2 months ago.  Doesn’t she look fabulous?!  This looks so good on her because it can hide those flaws.  It can hide the post-mommy belly.”

Number one, they are pulling in that personality, they are describing the product and afterwards I was like “I have 7 kids. I need that ugly horse-hair thingy for $250!” and then you can evaluate and you’re saying “Wait.  When I first tuned in, I did not like this at all but by the end, they had me wanting to pull out my credit card and spend $250!”

Angela:  It’s crazy that you say this cuz there’s a girl on my team who I said in that same exact live video, this girl she’ll work for QVC because she could sell ocean-front property to someone up in Minnesota.

Awnya: But it’s true!  I mean, there are other consultants who do great live videos with Paparazzi.  So, if you’re nervous, do some research before you jump into it, because live videos are the future if you do them right.

Let’s jump into the next question.

What is a habit you have that contributes to your success?

Angela: Most of all, I’m extremely personable with my customers and my team.  I’m very human, I’m very vulnerable.  I think the word that best describes me is transparent.  And I think that my customers and my team mates very much appreciate that about me.  So they feel that they can come to me with anything they might need.

I feel like positivity is extremely important.  Sometimes we think that if we are too positive that you become un-relatable.  Like, “I can’t come to Angela with a problem because she is going to downplay it.” and what-not. I feel like people can come to me with issues they are having and the way that I handle it makes them feel much more uplifted but realistic, if that makes sense.

Awnya: Absolutely.  Being approachable, being real.  People buy into YOU when they join your team, when they’re buying jewelry from you.  They’re buying into you, so they need to trust you.  They need to like you.  Being transparent, that totally makes sense.

Angela:  That’s why I love your question about “What was your worst moment?” because people need to understand that Elite representatives do have bad parties.  We do have bad months.  We do struggle.  And I think it’s really important that they know that.  But on the flip side that we learn from that and that we grow.

So I think that my habit is that I really make a huge habit of offering great customer service not only to my customers but to my teammates who are, in my opinion, the ultimate customers.

What advice would you give to a brand new Paparazzi consultant just getting started in their business?

Angela:  Use your resources.  There’s a lot of information in your back office and through your upline and on YouTube and on Pinterest.  It’s easy to get overwhelmed with all the information.  Don’t feel like you have to know everything right now, but never stop learning and growing and adding to your shopping group.

 Never stop partying.  Never get discouraged.  If you feel that you’ve run out of parties, don’t say, “I’ve run out of parties.” and just give up. Talk to people who are maybe good at what you are not good at.  Play on other people’s strengths.

Awnya:  I love what you said there.  “Never stop growing.  Never stop partying.”

If you could suggest 1 thing to a consultant who is feeling stuck in their business, what would it be?

Angela:  Play on your own strengths and if you have a weakness in a certain area, learn from the best.  Kinda like I was saying earlier with Live.  I did not have a good live party at all and I’ve been watching people who are amazing at it and I went to EMP where they had awesome training on it and I’m taking that and I’m running with it.

Another thing is to rub elbows with those that you want to learn from.  So if you know that somebody has great success with something, watch them and take notes and duplicate what works.  Also, never stop showing your love and your passion for the jewelry.  Talk to everyone about the opportunity.

But most importantly, and literally, it is the most important thing ever, is to be positive.  Even if you are not feeling positive because just as negativity is contagious, so is positivity.   It’s very courageous.  And if you truly show that you are a part of what it is that you do, then others will to.

Awnya:  I’m just going to re-cap what you said there, cuz there was so much good in there.  You said to:

  • play on your strengths
  • learn from the best
  • rub elbows with the best, the people that are better than you
  • Show your love and your passion for the product, that’s contagious
  • And also being positive which is also contagious.

Angela:  Right, totally.  If you show that you really love what you do, others will too. They’ll want to be a part of it.  It’s hard sometimes when we are feeling negative and we’re feeling down. It’s hard to break out of that rut.  And when you show your happy attitude and you show your love and you show your commitment to your product and your team and your work, people will want to be a part of that.

They’re not going to show love and they’re not going to show interest if you are “ho-hum, woh-is-me.”  So it’s really important that no matter how you feel, even on Facebook, just type something encouraging and remind yourself what it is that you are typing.  Fake it till you make it!

Awnya: So I have a little analogy that I thought of as you were saying that. Think of yourself as a magnet.  So on a magnet, there is 2 sides, right.  A positive side, and a negative and either side is attracting.

 So if you are being the positive magnet, you are going to be attracting the positive things to you.  If you are being that negative side, you are going to attract those.  But here’s the thing, if you are being the negative, the positive does not come.  Does that make sense?!  You know when you are trying to push the magnet together…

Angela:  It pushes away!

Awnya: Yeah, that actual resistance.  So if you are wanting your business to grow, which all of us should be wanting our business to grow.  If you are trying to attractive that positivity but you are in a bad space and you are being negative or you are just feeling down, you’re not going to be attracting those go-getters, those people that are wanting to grow their business.

You’re going to be attracting more negative.  So if you want that positive, if you want that growth, you need to make a switch in your life and be positive.  Whether you are faking it till you make it or whether you find something make that shift.  Order more jewelry.  Talk to your leader.  Get on a call and say “I’m really struggling with this, help me out…”

But you’ve gotta make that switch so that you are attracting instead of pushing that stuff away.  Does that analogy make sense?

Angela:  It’s absolutely perfect.  You know, Trent said something at EMP that was incredibly powerful.  He said, “You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with.”  And if those people are negative and they are soul-suckers, and whatever- insert negative adjective here- that’s what you are going to be like.  And if you are like that, that’s the kind of person you are going to attract.  So it is very, very important, that you hang out with, especially in the Paparazzi world, the people that you want to become.

What is a quote that inspires you?

Angela:  I have 2 quotes that I love.  1 of which is,


You are always going to have detours in life but the destination should always remain the same.  So that’s one that I like.  But,

quote -Van Gogh

Awnya:  That brings new perspective into anything.  If you think of what you are doing as a calling instead of a job or instead of just something that you do, it brings new clarity, new definition to it.

I haven’t heard that one before so that’s a neat quote!

Awnya:  We’re down to the last question.  Here on the Papa Rock Stars Podcast, we like to do a weekly call challenge.  So,

What is 1 think you would challenge the listeners to do in the next 7 days to take action in their Paparazzi business?

Angela: Do something in this business that scares you.  Maybe you are terrified to go live, you know.  Maybe the thought of approaching a stranger with your business card horrifies you.  Maybe calling a team mate who hasn’t been active in several months intimidates you.

Maybe you are totally afraid to approach that person that you think would be awesome about selling. Maybe you are afraid to approach them about joining your team.  The magic happens when you go outside of your comfort zone, so my challenge to you this week is to go there.

Awnya:  Go outside of your comfort zone and do something that scares you.  I love it!

Thank you everyone for tuning into the show today and thank you Angela for joining us!

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Tyronica Carter – Paparazzi Jewelry Elite Leader Interview

Today I am so excited to welcome to the show Tyronica Carter.   She is one of Paparazzi’s biggest stars and newest Elite Leaders! Hold onto your bling, cuz this show is gonna blow you away!

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Tyronica Carter - Paparazzi Jewelry Elite leader Tyronica Carter - Paparazzi Jewelry Elite leaderToday I am so excited to welcome to the show Tyronica Carter.   She is one of Paparazzi’s biggest stars and newest Elite Leaders!

Tyronica has reached the rank of Fashionista in Paparazzi.  She is Crown 25 and as of this recording, she has 3004 team members.  Isn’t that amazing?!

Tyronica has been a full time teacher for 15 years and she has also been married for 15 years.  They have 2 boys that are just adorable.  If you see them on Facebook, you will be like, “stay away from my teenage girls, cuz you guys are heartthrobs”.

In 2015 and 2016 she won the Paparazzi incentive trips.  That is where I first met her was on the trip in Cabo.  And also in 2016, Tyronica won Rock the Runway so she has one of the Zi collection necklaces named after her.

Now if you are super lucky in the future, they will bring that back from the Paparazzi time capsule, but odds are that if you weren’t there and you did not snag a Tyronica, you’re not going to get to because it’s that special.  Just available in 2016.

Tyronica did I leave anything out?

Tyronica: I think you did a good job, Awnya.

Awnya: Awesome.  Well let’s just right into the questions for today.

What got you started with Paparazzi??

Tyronica:  I began Paparazzi March 2015.  And 2 years prior to that, I was doing a vending event because I also make and sell handmade candles and air freshener.  And so I was doing an event vending my candles and there was a girl there selling Paparazzi.

This was 2013, and I noticed how everyone was going over to the counter.  I saw $5 jewelry.  So mozied over there myself and I even bought a few pieces.  I spoke with the girl, her name is Lisa Hill.  She is my sponsor now.  And I spoke with her about the opportunity.

She told me about it and I was like “Wow, this is cool but you know, I’m just now starting my candle business, which is my baby, I make them myself.  And I really want to work on my candle business and build it up.  Like you said, I’m a teacher.  I was learning about marketing my candles and I was learning about networking.  I just wasn’t ready to add anything else.  So for 2 years, believe it or not, Lisa and I chatted back and forth.

There were times I called her and I said, “Ok Lisa, I’m ready! I want to start it.”  I left her cold.  I didn’t start.  She would follow up with me every now and then but I just wasn’t’ ready.

Finally, in 2015, I told my husband at the beginning of the year, I’m ready for us to add a new stream of income.  And I said, “I think I want to do the jewelry business.” He said right away…he was supportive and he said, “I think you will do really good at that.  You love costume jewelry and you can work it.”

So I called Lisa and I set up a meeting and I said, “Okay, this time I’m serious.  I wanna do the business.”   My husband and I met with her for lunch.  Little did I know that the starter kit had become $99 because I was prepared to pay the $300 (which I should have done anyway because I sold that much jewelry my first month).  But I joined and from there, as they say, the rest is history.

I’m so excited that I made the decision to do so because it has been awesome since that day.

Awnya:  I love your story.  And another thing that we actually chatted about in the pre-interview chat is that you have a husband and you have 2 boys so you needed some estrogen in your life.  You needed that girl time.   We’re glad to have you.

Tyronica:  I did!  I definitely needed that girl time and to do girly fun stuff.  So that was a good plus as well.

Awnya: Another thing that I just wanted to highlight in what you just said for everybody listening is- you didn’t jump right in right away.  A lot of times, people don’t.  It took you 2 years.  Lisa had to be persistent.  She had to follow up.

If she just would have been like, “This girl’s never gonna do it,” after the first couple times, we wouldn’t have you and several other Elite Leaders that are under you, teams rocking like crazy, if she’d just let it go.

Tyronca:  Right!  I use that story a lot with my team to tell them that because I let them know.  Hey, when someone tells you no or they’re not interested or they just kinda give you the cold shoulder, we know, all the time we say, no means Next Opportunity.  This wasn’t their opportunity to do it so there will be another opportunity.

I gave Lisa the runaround for 2 years.  There were times I called her and said, “I’m ready”. And then I would just not call her back to sign up.  So I was that person for her for 2 years.  But when I finally signed up, she didn’t doubt me or put me off.  She said, “Okay, let’s meet up.”  And from here, I signed up.  I was ready.  That person has to be ready.

Awnya: What a great testament to that follow up and that pushin it, grinding it out until it is the right time for somebody.

What is your why?  Why do you do Paparazzi?

Tyronica:  My why is that as many of you know, educators, we have a hard job and we don’t get paid a lot of money.  I’ve been teaching 15 years with a Master’s degree and even that check was not putting myself and my husband and my family in a financial situation that we felt like we were stable enough to pay our mortgage and pay our car notes.

So as I said, I started my candle business which was good, but again, it was something I was building, my baby, myself up.  So I didn’t know a lot about marketing and networking and stuff so the business was ok, but of course it would have never covered or taken over my income the way now that Paparazzi is beginning to.

So I started Paparazzi because I said, “You know what, let me get at least another $500 a month coming in the house,” not really knowing the business, that was my goal.  “Let me get another $500 additional a month.”

And so I began Paparazzi and the first month, I signed 4 people, made Director and my check was like, “ok!”  It wasn’t $500 but it was more than what I was expecting.  And also knowing what I had made on hand sales that month, I said “Okay, this looks okay!”

And so that was my why.  My why was to make additional income.  And then, another thing I tell my team all the time, is as you begin to hit certain goals in your Paparazzi why, your why changes.  So over these past year and a half, my why has changed a lot.

So then it became, “You know what, this is really cool.  I’m learning a lot”.  A lot of us, we grow up and our parents teach us, go to school, get a job, go to work.  We aren’t always taught Entrepreneurship.

So then my why became to teach my children about owning a business.  Working for themselves.  And I’ve learned so much and then they are seeing me work in my business that they’re learning about it as well.  So that’s one of my whys.

I wanted to get out of the classroom.  That’s another reason as my why begins to change.  This business could actually get me out of the classroom and be home more and spend more time with my boys.  Even though they are getting older and growing up on me, I still haven’t been that mom to them that I want to be or the mom that I expect my student’s parents to be to them.  So my why continues to change.

Now, my goals, a lot of them, I’m meeting them.  So one of my next why’s is to not only get myself out of the classroom but to retire my husband eventually.

Awnya: That’s beautiful.  And you actually even took care of my follow-up question with, “What has your why changed into now?”.  I didn’t send you that one, but it’s so true.  When you start, things are different than when you have 3000 people on your team and you’re a Fashionista.  It has to grow and evolve doesn’t it?

Tyronica:  It definitely does.  And you’re not even in that mind frame when you begin.  You can’t even imagine what your mind frame and what you’re gonna be thinking a year and a half and when you grow and when you reach the rank of Fashionista.

It’s amazing just how you grow as a person and the way you look at things, change.  And that has definitely happened with me with Paparazzi.  And I just can’t’ imagine how else my why can change and grow because I feel like those are my ultimate whys is to retire myself and my husband and to live a lifestyle that we want to live of being able to have our own time and money and have control over that.

Awnya:  Won’t that be amazing?!  I can’t wait to see that Facebook post!

So now we are going to take a bit of a shift because a lot of the consultants out there, myself, I used to be included in this, I’ll admit it.  We believe that the Elite, you guys are super human.  And so this next questions is designed to let everybody know that you guys have bad moments too, some of them worse than what we experience.  And you’ve trudged through them and you’ve kept going despite all of that and you’ve learned from it.

So take us to that moment in time that is your worst Paparazzi moment.

Tyronica:  I believe that my worst Paparazzi moment has to be, and this has happened to me a couple times, where I have had people host Facebook parties for me and I’ve been the only person in the party.

You know, where they have invited several people, I have gone in, no one is interacting.  No one has bought anything and not even the hostess sometimes is interacting.

I remember the first time that happened to me.  And luckily the first time it happened to me wasn’t the first Facebook party I had because I can only image what my reaction would have been then.  It may have been a couple of months in, and I just wanted to stop.  But I didn’t because my prior Facebook parties, I had so much fun.

It was fun interacting with the people and I had kinda had the hope that, “You know what?!  Maybe if these people aren’t here, they’re going to come in later.  They’re busy right now.  They’re doing homework right now with their kids.  They’re cooking dinner, so they can’t come right now.”

So I kept posting and I kept posting.  I don’t wanna say it made me feel any better.  It didn’t.  It was still lonely.  I continued to post the games and play the games.  Like, you know, people were there.  I just continued the party as if people were there.  But then that’s happened to me several times.

What is the lesson that you learned from that?

Tyronica:  The lesson I learned from that was: use those bad experiences as practice.  As I continued to post in the party, I got good practice out of that, cuz, like I said, I didn’t post or continue to post.  I didn’t rush through it as if, “Okay, nobody’s here let me just do this.”  I didn’t do that.

I ran that party the way that I wouldn’t have run that party if there was 50 people in there.  And so I believe that what I learned from that is that I can use that experiences as a practice moment because it may happen again.  Or when I do my next Facebook, “Oh, I did something different in that party that I can use in my next one.”  So that’s what I want people to learn.

When you have any bad experience, and that one is mine, I’ve had the bad experience, of course we’ve all had the bad experience of opening a piece of jewelry and it breaking on you.  Or it didn’t come out right.  So use that experience as a practice moment, you know?! “How can I continue to make that better? Or let me keep going through this difficult moment so if it happens to me again, I’ll know exactly what to do from that.”

Awnya:  I love that you say that you can always learn and you can always continue to grow.  Because that is a constant thing.  No matter what rank you are at in Paparazzi, you can always continue to grow, right?

Tyronica: Yes!

What is a habit you have that contributes to your success?

Tyronica: One habit you I have that I feel contributes to my success is that I always try to outdo myself.  I know its kind a cliche-ish and people say all the time, “You are your biggest competitor.  Look at the person in the mirror, that’s your biggest competition.”  To me, I take that to heart.  That is absolutely true.  That is my habit.  I continue to outdo myself.  I compete with myself.

Trent always says to, “Do better this month than you did the month before.”  I remember the first time that I heard him say that and I was like, “That’s it!  That’s what I do!”

That’s my habit that I am.  I’m always looking at, “Okay.  If I did add 1 consultant this week then next week, I want to try to do 2.”  Or “I did this many last month, how can I do better this month?”.  So that’s my habit that I’m continually challenging myself.

I feel like I definitely hold myself to high standards.  And that’s a notch that I want to reach.  Just imaging the kid that as they continue to grow and practice. There’s a string hanging from their ceiling at home and they go and they’re jumping and they are trying to reach that ceiling.

They don’t necessarily have to always grow taller to reach that string.  They can reach that string by running faster to jump higher, they can reach that string by stretching of by doing whatever they need to to better themselves so as they continue to practice and practice and practice working on their jump, their reach, their aim.  That’s gonna make them reach that string at the top.

So that is definitely something that I practice that I feel like contributes to my success is that I do outdo myself.  I don’t compare myself with other people.

I do see other people in other teams, other people on my team who started asking me, who are doing a great job and I applaud their success.  I don’t compare myself with them.  My path and my destination is my own.  I’m not on this path or road per say with somebody.  I work with my team members – we’re all doing this together, but my path and my destination is my own.

Awnya: One of my all-time favorite quotes, and it comes from someone named John Lee Dumas, he has a podcast that I absolutely adore, but he says, “Compare and despair.” What he means by that is that you shouldn’t be comparing yourself with others.

You should be comparing yourself with the version of yourself yesterday.  And that’s exactly what you are talking about here.  You’re trying to exceed yourself.  The only person you are comparing yourself to is yourself yesterday. Anybody else, it doesn’t matter what they are doing.  You gotta stay in your lane and focus.

Tyronica:  Exactly.  Yes!  Indeed.  And I think a lot of people lose focus when they do that.  When you’re trying to keep up, as that old quote says, “Keep up with the jones'”. You know, it’s nice to look at the Jones’ and it’s nice to say “Congratulations, High 5!”

You know, but a lot of us, and especially as women, we tend to carry envy in our hearts.  And, “Oh!  What are they doing?”  And you can’t do that.  You have to focus on yourself.  And I believe that comes with a lot of self-love and a lot of intrinsic motivation and you have to have that within yourself to do better and to succeed and surpass those things.

Awnya: And everybody’s journey is going to be different whether it’s your Paparazzi journey or your journey in life.  God has a plan for everybody and it’s not all the same just like we are all not the same.  So comparing to somebody else’s journey, it’s just gonna make you unhappy.  Love that!

What is a piece of advice you would give to a brand new Paparazzi consultant just starting out in their business?

Tyronica: When I have my new consultants join, one thing I love to tell them, is you MUST brand yourself!

That’s the number one advice I give anybody who’s beginning Paparazzi.  You have to brand yourself.  You’re the jewelry girl now. So because of that, you need to go out there and show that.  You can’t sell jewelry if no one knows your jewelry girl.

You can’t have people to join your team if they don’t know what they’re joining and you aren’t showing them that.  So brand yourself.  People buy into you.  They don’t necessarily buy into the product.  They aren’t necessarily buying into Paparazzi when they purchase from you.  They’re purchasing from you because you have branded yourself.

When they join you team, they’re joining you as their leader because you have branded yourself and shown yourself approved as the jewelry girl.

Be consistent, especially when you feel like giving up.  A lot of times you hit that road we wanna give up.  That consistency has to be there.  And once you’ve branded yourself that consistency will come.

So brand yourself as a jewelry girl.

Awnya:  And I can attest to the fact that Tyronica, she does this herself.  I see it every day on Facebook and I follow her just because everything is so uplifting and so positive.  And its constant, everyday and I love it.  And it’s not always like, “Hey buy jewelry from me.  Hey join my team.”  Sometimes it’s just a thought, but they’re always positive, they’re always uplifting.  She posts pictures of herself wearing jewelry. If I did not have a jewelry girl, I would know who to go to because she is consistent and she has branded herself.

What would you suggest to a consultant who is feeling stuck in their business?  What is 1 thing you would tell them to do?

Tyronica:  I would tell that consultant to Follow the Leader.  One of the things that I preach and I tell my team all the time on our calls and our videos is to follow the leader.  When I first started Paparazzi and I was stuck because I had not a clue about marketing, business.  I’m a teacher, I don’t’ know those things.

When those emails come out every Wednesday, I look for the top leaders.  I was like, “Who is it that is at the top?  Who is getting the kudos every week?”

And I found those people on Facebook and I befriended them.  And I looked to see.  I didn’t necessarily look to see exactly what they were doing but more or less the style of what they were doing.

I realized a lot of things I needed to change up about how I was putting it out there, so I looked to see what these people were doing and then I tweaked it so that it could be me, you know.  A lot of times we like to share and do things that we see other people doing, which is ok, but you definitely have to make it your own.

When your friends and the people that are following you on social media, they see things, they’ll say, “Okay that must be a scripted something because that doesn’t sound like her.”  However when you put into your own words, into your own passion, then you begin to draw the attention of the people who know you, that are following you.  Being stuck means that you’ve reached your minds peak of imagination.  It doesn’t mean that there’s nowhere else to go.

Sometimes that’s all we know or we don’t know what else to do.  So your imagination has kind of reached its peak, so I would say again, Follow the Leader.  Befriend the top consultants in the company.

I tell my team, another thing I tell them all the time, is, “My Paparazzi and your Paparazzi is the only Paparazzi you see in your timeline, it’s not enough.  Its not enough.  You have to befriend other people.  Even people outside of your team.”  Find other people and befriend them because you need to revamp and refresh your ideas and by surrounding yourself with other Paparazzi consultants that will get you there.

I think, my gosh, I probably befriended in the past year and a half maybe 400-500 Paparazzi consultants.  I did say befriend the top leaders, but there are some people who are Directors and Premier Directors and Executive Directors who are on top of their game, so you want to find those people too.

There’s a lot of people who are on the leaders board who are not always Elite.  They are people who are just maybe starting out.  More people who have just kinda the light bulb clicked and they are starting to build their business too.  So those people who you are seeing always kinda in little Paparazzi circle or just outside the circle, that’s who you want to befriend.  Those people who continue to give you life and vision for your business.  Because that’s gonna help you to get out of that rut that you feel like you are in.

Awnya:  So the thing that I loved about what you just said there is you’re looking for new ideas by networking with other people, you’re looking at what they are doing. Because, I mean, it’s great to have a team, but sometimes you’ll get new fresh ideas from people on another team.  So it’s great to network to get those new ideas, to keep things fresh, but also you want to network UP.

By looking at who’s leading the pack, but looking and who’s on those leader boards, you are seeing who is driven, who is motivated, who is growing.  You don’t necessarily, this is going to sound bad, but you don’t want to reach down when you are networking people.  If you’re reaching down, if you’re reaching to the sides, you are not going to grow as fast or as much as if you reach up.  And you’re making friends with people who are more positive, more driven, more successful.

That goes in life. It goes in Paparazzi.  It goes with whatever you do.  So you want to make sure that you are networking up and reaching.  Because that’s where you want to go, right.

Tyronica:  Or those people that are growing with you.  So definitely reach up, because that is exactly what I did when I first joined.  But you also have those people that are growing with you, so you are riding that ride together.  So if you are the same rank, as long as you guys are growing together and that person is continuing to give you those nuggets and feed you with that positivity.  And you’re seeing that they are making progression as well, then that’s definitely that’s who you want to see in your news feed as well.

Awnya: Absolutely.  Somebody else said, “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with” and I think that, in a greater extent, that’s Facebook too. If you’re spending time with some Debbie-downers or some people that are just complaining all the time, you’re not going to grow and exceed as fast as if you are finding those people who are the movers and the shakers.

Or if the people that you are surrounding are those positive, uplifting examples.

Like when you talked about your husband, in the beginning, he wasn’t like “Girl, you are a full time teacher, you sell candles. What are you doing trying to take on a jewelry business?!”  He was like, “You know what?! Do it!” And that is the kind of people you want to surround yourself with.  Those that are going to lift you up.  I love that.

We could talk about this all night because it is one of my passion subjects!  Let’s keep moving on.

What is a quote that inspires you?

Tyronica:  I love quotes.  I love the fact that…As a matter of fact, when I do my newsletter for my class every week, I google inspirational quotes from parents and I put that at the top of my newsletter every week.  One thing I love is that our founder, Trent Kirby, I love going to his page and looking at his quotes.  And there’s so many there.  But the one that he’s recently posted that gave me an “Ah-ha, I love it, that’s it!” moment, he said,

Steve Jobs Quote

And that quote right there was just like a drop the mic quote for Paparazzi and for any person that’s pursuing a dream.  So many times, we’re saying, “my team is not doing this.” and “I can’t motivate them” and “they’re not doing this” and I tell people all the time, “look, those are grown people.”

We learned at convention that we don’t motivate, we can only inspire you’re team.  When you are working with grown people who want to make their business, you can’t MAKE them do it.  So this quote was just so on point when he said that if they are excited about it and its something that they’re passionate about and that they really want, they don’t have to be pushed.

What is their vision?  What is their why for Paparazzi?  Why are they doing this?  Where is it that they want to be?  I gave my team, and I did this last year too, I told them to make a goal for Dec 31, 2017.  We don’t just do monthly goals.  What is your goal for this whole year?

So that is your vision.  And if that’s your vision straight ahead, they your monthly goals are going to be the stepping stones that we are going to take every week, every month to get to Dec 31.  So that quote right there was just so perfect and on time for what your position as a consultant with Paparazzi should be.

You shouldn’t have to look for your upline to do incentives every month in order for you to be pushed to sign so many consultants.  It shouldn’t be, “Oh!  Whoever signs 5 people this month is going to get…”  That shouldn’t be what’s pushing you, your drive and your vision.

You should say, “Hey, I wanna get out of the classroom.  I don’t care what Lisa is offering.  I’m going to surpass whatever she says anyways because that is my drive.  And what is driving me is that I have a goal and I have something that I’m striving for and I’m not stopping until I get to that finish line.”  So that quote right there I really love and I think it’s perfect for being a Paparazzi consultant.

Awnya:  I completely agree with you.  I love that one

What is a book you’d say is a must read and why?

Tyronica: There’s a book that I read years before I became a consultant, years before I started selling my jewelry.  I don’t even know why my husband and I have this book (I think we may have gotten it at a garage sale) cuz I didn’t have any businesses or anything like that.

But it’s called “Getting Past No, Negotiating in Difficult situation” by William Ury.  And I like this book because it, of course, one of the biggest things that we have in Paparazzi is recruiting and people telling us no or people saying, “Well, when I get paid”, or “this weekend.  We’ll talk this weekend”.  We always have someone that just doesn’t give us that yes.

As a matter of fact there is another book that I plan on reading soon, there’s one he has out that’s called, “Getting to Yes”.

But I love it because in the book, he gives you 5 simple methods for negotiating with anyone.  When you’re thinking (and it’s not just about Paparazzi)… maybe it’s because I read it before I became a consultant, it’s just negotiation period.

When it comes to anything in life that you’re trying to get past no with anyone for.  I would definitely say read this book.  Apply the 5 methods that he speaks of, to your Paparazzi business and how you can “negotiate” getting that person to join your team and getting past no.

Awnya:  Oh!  I’ll have to check that one out!  It’s not one I’ve heard of before but I love new book resources, so I’ll have to check that one out.

Here on the Papa Rock Stars Podcast, I like to give a weekly call challenge.

So what is 1 thing you would challenge the listeners to do in the next 7 days to take action in their Paparazzi business?

Tyronica:  I’m glad you asked!  So you say what is 1 thing, so I’m gonna give you 1 thing that’s 4 in 1!

I have… I came up with it early spring last year.  The branding, I spoke of that a few minutes ago. And I said -what can a new consultant…what would I tell them to do.  And I tell them, brand yourself.  That comes with a 4 step process that when I have new consultants, I tell them to brand themselves and I tell them to do their first 7 days in Paparazzi, this is what I tell them to do.

1- Get Noticed.  Post every day.  Begin to wear and model your jewelry every day.  Tag close friends that don’t mind getting tagged.  Like for my husband, he’s getting tagged in everything.  I tag him in almost everything so if you have a friend, sister, someone who doesn’t mind, when you are doing that, you are getting noticed, and you are also bringing in new people that you wouldn’t have been able to reach out before because you are tagging somebody. So you’re reaching out to their friends as well.  So first 7 days, Get Noticed.

2- You have to Build Trust with your social media people.  People don’t trust what they don’t see.  So you are going to start showing people that you are working your business and how your business is working for you.

So in those 7 days, not only are you getting noticed but you are giving them tidbits of how you are working your business.  Carrying your bag around. You are going to show them how, “Oh my gosh, here I am at the gas station and the lady just saw my bag in my car and just asked what it was” or those type.

You wanna post those things.  So, show people how you are working your business. Especially if it’s fitting into your everyday life.  You’re at work and you’re wearing your necklace and your co-worker asks you about it and you say, “oh! I’ve got the same one in my car!” And you pull it out in the office and you make $50.

So post those things.  Okay?!  That’s how you build trust with people.  And you have to consistently do all of these things.

3- Build Loyalty.  I say all the time, “don’t be the next fly by night direct sales consultant.”  I don’t’ want to step on any toes with that one cuz I know a lot of people who are in a lot of other direct sales companies, however, you want to try to build loyalty with the company that you are having an ultimate goal with.

So show and let people know how much you love and believe in Paparazzi.  They have to know you are THE Paparazzi girl.  At this point, I’m just known everywhere as, “Do you have your jewelry?!”  “There’s that jewelry girl over there!”

Family members, I’m the butt of all the jokes about that, but that’s ok, I’ll be that.  They know that I have that loyalty to my company. You know, they aren’t going to catch me in a whole bunch of jewelry that’s not Paparazzi.

4- Build Customers.  Make your 50 PV every month!  Make that 50 PV every month.  When you build customers, you build them by having the newest and up to date inventory.  Keep your stock fresh and with you at all times, so in these next 7 days, make sure you are buying the newest and the latest inventory and that you have your 50PV.

Getting your 50 PV only ensures that you have the newest and up to day inventory.  So keep it fresh.  So I’ll go back real quick.  This week, get noticed, build trust, build loyalty and build your customers.

Awnya: Bam!  What a way to end off the show!  Like seriously.  I’m like, I’ve got my next 7 days covered, I know what I’m doing!!

I love it, well, Tyronica, I have pages of notes!  I just appreciate you coming on the show and sharing these tidbits with us because I know that it will make somebody else just explode their business and I appreciate you.

Tyronica:  Definitely.  I love helping people and you know, like you said, Elite people are just normal people.  I’m a teacher. I say that all the time, like, guys!  I feel like I’m up against other people who are business people.

I’m a teacher, a mom, and this is new to me, but I feel like my success is contributed to because I love it.  And I show it and my enthusiasm with the business and in my posts.  And I just want other people to have that same success and have that same feeling of achievement and accomplishment in this business.

Awnya:  And that passion, it really is contagious.  People they want to be around it.

Thank you again for listening to today’s call to all of our listeners and for Tyronica for joining us.

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Let’s get real

So here we are. Episode 50!  I never thought about what I would say or post or how we would celebrate this episode so I gotta be honest, not much is gonna be different. I AM working on something EPIC for our 100th episode though so you’ll want to be sure to tune in for that!!

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In this episode, we are talking about being REAL and why it’s important to show your personality and human-ness to your customers and team.

So, I think I’ve shared before that I’ve been in Direct Sales for a while now.  I was with several other companies before Paparazzi and was involved with several training and speaking organizations to improve myself and my business.  I learned SO much!

One of the things that I could never quite accept from all of the teachers, speakers, trainers and coaches that I had was that they wanted me to look PROFESSIONAL at ALL times.  In my mind, I was like, “Professional?!  Are you kidding?!  I haven’t had a shower in 3 days and I don’t think I own a shirt that isn’t stained with spit-up or PBJ!”  I really struggled with wanting to present myself in a professional manner but still being a work at home/stay at home mom.

I think this is what also held me back in my business.  The women that I was trying to emulate were professional working mothers.  They had a babysitter or a daycare to watch their kids.  Most of them had an office they would be at from 8-5 and they were able to avoid the PBJ stains.  Don’t get me wrong, these ladies are AMAZING at what they do and highly inspirational, but the entire reason I wanted to be in direct sales was to STAY HOME with my kids.  To BE a mom!

So it took a lot of soul searching and several years, but I finally realized that what had been drilled into my head wasn’t going to work for me in my life.

Now, I’m not saying that you should go live with messy hair, no bra, and no makeup – that’s just not a good way to represent a company that is about fashion and accessorizing.  But what I am saying is that you don’t have to have it ALL together ALL the time either.  People like knowing that you are human.  That you have struggles and challenges too!

So the other day when I was doing a live Facebook video, my daughter burst into the room crying.  I quickly handled the situation (she’s 3 so she usually just needs a Mommy-kiss) and sent her back on her way.  While I was embarrassed, I was able to quickly say something about how lucky I am to be able to work from home with my kids and then I moved on.  I was a moment of real life that was infused into my presentation and my customers LOVED it!

Another morning, we had really had a difficult time getting out the door to school.  I was still in my husband’s t-shirt, ball cap and I’d managed to throw on a pair of jeans.  At a stop light on the way to the school, I grabbed a pair of earrings and a necklace and put them on and was amazed at how quickly my “just out of bed look” became a “dressed down but still cute” look.  So what did I do?  I took a picture!  I shared with my customers that I was just out of bed BUT that anyone in the drop off line at the school or the secretary at the front desk thought my look was on purpose – because of my accessories!

Was I completely perfect looking?  Not by a long shot, but I can guarantee that the other moms out there decided that they need to keep a necklace and pair of earrings handy for JUST such mornings so that THEY can look good too!

Recently, I have a consultant join my team and she shared that she had been looking at several other consultants for quite some time, trying to decide whose team to join.  When I asked why she choose me, she said that I posted about business, but I also posted about my kids.  She was able to get a feel for who I am as a person and knew that I have a life outside of Paparazzi.  She said the others that she had been watching were purely business and she couldn’t get a feel for who they were or if they would be a good leader!

See it pays to show who you are!  To be real.  Genuine.  I had no idea that I was being watched but now I am glad that I post silly pictures of my kids or new and exciting things going on in my life because it really does matter.

So what I’m trying to say is there’s nothing wrong with not looking 100% polished and put together at all times.  It makes what you do seem legit.  Like they can do it too.  It also helps people to believe you a little bit more when you are telling them how awesome your business is or how much money you’ve made with Paparazzi.  They think that if you are willing to be honest about those less than perfect moments in your life, you are also being honest about your success with Paparazzi.  It’s a Win, Win!

I do want to clarify one thing – these aren’t an everyday thing.  You don’t want to portray that your life is a disaster and that you are barely able to brush your teeth every day.  That’s not something they are going to want to sign up for either, but those tiny peeks into your personal like on occasion will go a long way!

Show Challenge:

Post at least 1 thing to your personal Facebook timeline or in your sales group that shows a different side of you.  It could be a collage of silly faces or how you accessorized your top while you were still wearing PJ pants – but none of the other moms as school drop-off knew!  You pick!  Be honest, be genuine!

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